The One Action That Defines True Love

If you or your partner do this, then you know you‘re inseparable

Sajjad Choudhury
7 min readOct 31, 2022

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My wife and I at Kew Gardens — Image by Author

Every human craves love and affection. No matter what anyone says, it’s one of our most fundamental needs. Some find that in family, others in friends.

Have you wondered why a person could be so badly affected by a seemingly harmless social media comment? Celebrities often fill their craving for love by reading through the responses sent by their fans. Many even actively respond.

But when they come across something negative, it’s as if their soul has been pierced. Some celebrities live and breathe for their fans. They love them. So when they don’t get that love back, it’s understandable that their heart breaks a little.

But of all the sources of love a person can receive, the sweetest is that of a partner. But how do you separate love from true love?

It’s not by the actions of one but by the actions of both.

What is True Love?

Do you know the meaning of true love? You might answer yes, but do your actions really convey that? Read the following, then ask yourself again:

‘Essentially, true love means that you have an unwavering, unbreakable and unparalleled fondness and devotion for your partner. It’s also defined by an emotional as well as physical connection with him or her that runs immeasurably deep, and life without your significant other would be practically unthinkable.’ — Stacey Laura Lloyd

Reread those words. Unwavering, unbreakable and unparalleled. Would you use those words to describe your feelings of love for a partner? Or do you instead feel the words shaky, uncertain and unsure? Or perhaps it’s neither.

If the latter is true, then no matter how riveting your conversations with that person are, no matter how much time you spend with them or how good bedroom activities may be, you’re not experiencing true love.

If you’re still unconvinced, then read the second half of the quote. Many couples have a wonderful physical connection but not necessarily a strong emotional one. To experience true love, you need both.

‘Emotional intimacy is the foundation for a…

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Sajjad Choudhury

Product Operations Lead @ Onfido | I create relationship wellbeing content, digital products and run an IG page. Check it out - https://linktr.ee/saish_coaching